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With all this brouhaha over Netflix' pricing changes, and the just released details of how they are restructuring the company, and that one of their streaming providers (Starz) will no longer be providing content for them after January 28th, 2012, I decided I should probably start watching some of the nearly 100 movies in my instant queue.

Tonight, I watched a movie I haven't seen since college: The Naked Civil Servant. The movie follows Quentin Crisp's early life in London. Crisp is a very effeminate gay man, and he doesn't hide it. He pretty much takes it on himself to be a silent, if flamboyant, constant reminder to the people in pre— and post— WWII London that homosexuals exist. He was a one man Act Up. Just by walking down the street, he was letting everybody know "I'm here, I'm queer, get used to it (and please don't beat me up)".

After watching the movie, I was really struck by just how much he did for the gay movement, without really doing anything other than living his life out loud.

When the movie was done, Netflix showed a list of other movies I might be interested in, including a movie called An Englishman in New York, which has John Hurt reprising his role as Quentin Crisp, but many years later when he moved to New York in the early 80's. As an aside, the the song "Englishman in New York" was written by Sting about Quentin Crisp.

I found this movie to be even more entertaining. It's almost a new twist on the fish-out-of-water story. Here we see an aging queen of the old guard who existed by being flamboyant, now living in a city where most of the gays looked just like the "great dark man" that he so wanted when he was younger. Flamboyancy was out, masculinity was in.

In one of his performances, he said something that really dropped him out of favor with the public. They address that in this movie, and some really interesting insight into his character and what he really meant by the statement. If any of you remember the incident i'm talking about, I really recommend watching the movie.

In the end, he makes a really really interesting statement:

"you should make no effort to try and join society. Stay right where you are. Give your name and serial number, and wait for society to form itself around you, because it most certainly will. "


In other words: live your life, be proud, be happy, and don't try to "blend in". The rest of the world will, eventually, accept you and welcome you. But they can't do that if they don't know you are there.

I was really moved by this. I had kind of written off Crisp as a relic of a different age, out of touch with where gay life was now. Turns out, he really was in touch with how the world works.
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It's been 13 years since my mom died.

I wasn't really thinking about it this year, but I guess my subconscious was; I dreamt about her this morning. In the dream she was still alive, and we were making plans to have dinner. She and my dad left to go do something, and it suddenly struck me that she shouldn't have been there because she had died. I started asking my friends if they has seen her, or was I just going crazy. My friends were consoling me, and I started crying because I was grateful for their concern, and also sad at my loss.

I woke up crying.

Thirteen years ago, my parents were going to visit my brother and his family in Hong Kong. I talked to my Mom and Dad on the phone before they left, said the usual " have a great trip! I love you" stuff, and that was that. Three days later, I get a call from my Dad saying Mom was in a coma and it didn't look like she was going to make it.

I really don't remember much of the next three months. As I told a friend of mine, it was like my reality check bounced. I remember going to work every once in a while, but mostly I was just numb. I have a couple really amazing friends that made sure I got out of the house at least once a week, even if it was just to come over to their place for dinner, or a little get-together.

Thirteen years later, I still miss my mom.

My Dad (Bill), brother Steve, and sister-in-law Wendy wrote a recap of what happened to share with family and friends so they could understand everything that happened. Although it ends with my Mom dying, it is an amazing story of the goodness of people; strangers working together to help somebody— somebody they don't know, but who needs their help.

Story of the Final Days - behind the cut )

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Mar. 9th, 2011 10:53 am
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Mike, Reid and I went to Disneyland. The park was really crowded, and we were all just in a relaxed kinda space, so we ended up wandering around, doing some shopping, and going to see places that we don't usually go to. When we're with "the bears", we usually just go on tons of rides. They really know how to work the fast-pass system, and know which rides to go on at which times. It's all kinda voodoo to me.

But in doing that, there are a lot of places in Disney we never get to see… like Toon Town. Sure, it's meant for kids, but it was fun to see it anyway. We also walked through Cinderella's castle, and took the train ride across the park. The train ride takes you throug a super-cheesy 1950's era diorama of the Grand Canyon. There are views of the canyon as it is today, and what it might have looked like with the dinosaurs roaming about (nevermind that the Grand Canyon is only about 16 million years old, and the dinosaurs died out about 65 million years ago).

It was a great, relaxing day at Disneyland, even if we didn't go on any rides.

(Picture taken by: Reid / [livejournal.com profile] animbear)


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Mar. 6th, 2011 02:18 am
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Mike and I are visiting Richard & Reid this weekend. Today was such a beautiful SoCal day (about 76 degrees) that we went for a nice long walk from the R&R Tiki Retreat down to the beach and out to the San Clemente pier. The pier is so long, it feels like you are about a mile out in the ocean looking back at the shore. After the pier, we stopped for pizza at this amazing little hole-in-the-wall place, where Reid snapped this shot.

All in all, a great relaxing day!


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Mar. 4th, 2011 11:41 pm
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Tiki drinks!
Richard made Mai Tais for us. So delish. And so strong. My lips are numb. Yay!


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Mar. 4th, 2011 12:20 am
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Things are pretty good recently. Besides dating an awesome guy, I've been visiting friends, catching up with people, and just generally enjoying life.

In the words of the Thompson Twins: Here's to Future Days!


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Alternate picture for today



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Mar. 3rd, 2011 03:56 pm
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78 degrees and sunny in Palm Springs… and snow on the mountains surrounding us.


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Mar. 2nd, 2011 09:40 am
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Road trip!!
Heading to palm springs to celebrate Steve's 50th Birthday! Yay!


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Feb. 28th, 2011 11:55 pm
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Jeb and I met Mike at his office for lunch, walked to get sammiches at Subway, and then over to PetCo park to eat them and enjoy this fine, sunny San Diego day.


PetCo Park - 1

PetCo Park - 2

PetCo Park - 3






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Feb. 27th, 2011 11:26 pm
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Photo by: Jeb

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Feb. 27th, 2011 11:06 pm
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Jeb at breakfast at Brians' American Eatery.


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Feb. 26th, 2011 11:16 am
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Went to dinner at this funky place called The Turf Club with Mike d, Richard and Reid and Dave O. What a cool place! Fun cocktails, and you cook your own food on a giant hibachi in the center of the restaurant. It's small, kinda cramped, filled with hipsters, loud… and really fun! the atmosphere is really social and nifty. Loved this place and will go back anytime.


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Feb. 25th, 2011 12:27 am
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Detail of a couple Tiki masks at the most excellent Mainlanders store (their website, however, is a little less than excellent.)


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Feb. 23rd, 2011 04:22 pm
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So i've kinda been in this weird everything-needs-to-be-colored-lights kind of mood lately. I got this LED color changing light that I had seen a while ago. It has a remote controller, and you can have it do a single color, or flash between the colors, or just fade smoothly through the whole spectrum.

I had to have it.

The other thing I got was a special I saw on deals.woot.com for an LED color changing shower head for $11. Now really, how could I pass that up? and it's powered by water pressure, so no batteries needed ever! How freakin' cool is that?! I can totally rave out in the shower now.

They both arrived today. OMG my room is so disco.

Music:
Tentura: Free Your Mind (iTunes)



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Feb. 23rd, 2011 02:36 pm
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I decided to cut my hair pretty short this time. I am not sure I like the end result, but at least hair grows back pretty quickly.


Music by:
Moodorama: Beatzekatze Pt. 1 (iTunes)

53 / 365, originally uploaded by JP in SD.

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yeah, because I'm lame and haven't updated on a regular basis - again - I'm doing a 4 day update in a single post.

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Picked up Mike at work and headed to Which 'Wich for lunch. Sorry folks, but there are prolly going to be a few more pictures of this man in my photostream / journal. I guess that's to be expected when I'm dating such a handsome man :-)

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Yeah, yeah. yet another picture of Mike. I really dropped the ball this weekend, and didn't take enough pictures of everything else that was going on.

So today, we went to this neat little Mediterranean place for lunch. Oh, and for dinner we met up with Mikey, Tim, G, Henry, and Scott for dinner at… a Mediterranean place! HA! different place, and also delicious food. Good thing I love Mid-eastern / Mediterranean / Lebanese / Greek food.

I'm staying at Rob and Nick's for the weekend to watch the house, and to take care of Thelma while they are away at IBR. R & N said we could use the jacuzzi.

Even tho it was lightly spritzing rain, we decided that it was light enough not to bother us, so we jumped in the jacuzzi anyway. Over the next couple hours, precipitation went from a light sprinkle to a heavy freakin' downpour, and back to gentle drops, eventually tapering off to nothing. It was pretty awesome looking up and seeing the clouds dissipate, and the moon and stars come out.

I'm still not sure if taking a jacuzzi during a rain storm was romantic and spontaneous, or just crazy and impetuous.


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Mike is about to have his first taste of the heavenly home made tater-tots from R Gang Eatery.

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Breakfast at Brians' American Eatery, then off to buy new mattresses for Mike.

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Feb. 18th, 2011 12:54 am
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Taking care of Thelma while Rob and Nick are in SF. Even tho she hurt her paw recently, is almost blind and deaf, Thelma is a surprisingly spry 17 years old.


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Feb. 16th, 2011 10:52 pm
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I replaced the incandescent bulb in the light on the table behind my bed with a blue fluorescent "party light" - uses less electricity, and totally adds a nifty blue glow to everything.


47 / 365, originally uploaded by JP in SD.

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Feb. 16th, 2011 12:03 am
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Mike made veggie lasagna from scratch for dinner, then we headed to Eclipse Chocolat for dessert.

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Drinkable chocolate from Eclipse Chocolat. It's 75% cacao, with rosemary and mint, and home made marshmallows. SO delish!

I've been thinking of following Boyshapedbox's idea, and turning my 365 pics and journal entries into a book at the end of the year. I'm sure a lot of my updates recently have seemed rather mundane and boring to you guys. Sorry about that :-)


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Feb. 14th, 2011 11:51 pm
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Good morning, Monday! What ya got for me today?

I have a feeling this is going to be an awesome week.


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